Occasionally, life throws us a curve ball. You’re going along just fine, making it through each day, feeling as though things are coming together, then BAM! Flat-lined. Whether it be the loss of a loved one, the end of a relationship, loss of a job… live long enough and you’ll eventually find yourself in this position.
I’m certainly not the model of proper coping mechanisms. In fact, I’ve often felt I’m a better example of what not to do. But over my 30-odd years, I’ve learned a few things. And wouldn’t you know, life has given me the perfect opportunity to put those lessons into action in my own life.
First of all, don’t run from grief. Like it or not, no matter how long and how hard you try to push it down, grief will eventually catch up. (Think Michael Myers.)
Second, allow yourself to feel. Cry, scream, punch a pillow. Let your emotions wash over you like a wave. Experience them in their entirety for a moment.
But, just as that wave washes over you with such striking force, allow it to ebb. Feel the pain, the rejection, the loss and then let it go. And each time those waves return, stand your ground, FEEL…but remember the tide will eventually fall. It won’t always hurt this much.
I have faith in you. You are stronger than you know.